Our therapist gave us an assignment recently to spend some time alone together. Easy enough. We like each other. We enjoy each other’s company. We’ll get the kids down early and enjoy one of our favorite shows. We spend time together all the time. Easiest assignment ever!
Then she added, “Make sure it’s uninterrupted with no screens, no distractions.” Hmmm… she wants to make sure we’re staying in “work on the marriage mode” between sessions. We’re right in the middle of binge-watching one of our favorite shows, but we can use a couple of nights and talk. Besides, we teach other couples to do the same! (BTW, Are YOU getting your 100 minutes in this week?) We mentally prepared ourselves for the time we would set aside to talk about our marriage.
But she continued, “Don’t focus on talking about the kids, the businesses, or even your marriage. Just enjoy each other.”
Just enjoy each other.
Just enjoy each other.
We had to say it to each other a few times to let it sink in. To be intentional about carving out time to just enjoy each other. Sure, we spend time together, but rarely is it alone, undistracted, and with an intentional focus of not “working on our marriage”, but just staring at each other and being lost in love.
You’d think that since life has “slowed down” so much this year (ALLEGEDLY), we’d have no problem finding the time to just intentionally sit and do nothing but enjoy each other. But the truth is, between the kids, the businesses, the job, the many projects and obligations, we are ALWAYS DOING SOMETHING.
So this assignment to not do our usual “therapy homework”, but rather do nothing but enjoy each other was a needed reminder. And you know us, we wanted to share the reminder with you, just in case you need it. Be intentional. Carve out time to stare into each other’s eyes and really see each other. Connect. Stay connected.
Just enjoy each other.