When did Noah build the Ark?

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It was BEFORE the flood.

This season has taught us so much. Amongst the many lessons is the importance of preparation. The funny thing about preparation, though, is that sometimes, you don’t always know exactly what you’re preparing for. Sometimes, we’re led to take wise action with no clue of exactly how it’s preparing us for the future...

A few years ago, we purchased a generator. After all, we do live in Houston, which is prone to the occasional category 3 or 4 hurricane! Last year, Terence (seemingly out of the blue) decided that he wanted to have our generator connected to the electrical panel of our home. I questioned the need for such an expense, since at that time, we’d had the generator for a few years and it was still unused. Plus, I thought it was customary in a power outage to just plug in the major appliances and the few things that you need as you need them. We wouldn’t have to power the entire house, would we? But nonetheless, I didn’t argue. We made the investment to have the entire house connected to the generator on the rare chance that some major storm would come and knock out electricity for many days and we would have to cool (or warm) the entire house.

And then that winter storm happened in Texas a couple of weeks ago!

Who saw that coming?! We sure didn’t. We lost electricity for 3 days and running water for 5. Cellular service went out. It was pure chaos! The temperatures dipped into single digits... and Terence put on his ski gear, moved the generator out of the garage and powered it up, keeping us (and our pipes) warm.

We didn’t know how that investment would pay off. Or when. But let me tell you, the return came in ways we didn’t see coming.

That’s also how it is with relationships. The investments of time, energy, resources, kindness, and love that we pour into our marriages and families do generate a return. The question is WHAT ARE YOU INVESTING?

Over the past year, in this season of COVID, we’ve seen a return on investments that we’ve previously made into our marriage and our children. We’ve seen the fruit of the good seeds planted and identified more investments that need to be made.

Be mindful of the investments you’re making into your family. Comment below or email us at contact@LivingLifewithTheHoustons.com to let us know how we can help you along your journey.

With Love,

The Houstons

By the way, so many of our Texas neighbors didn’t fare as well as we did. In addition to your prayers and warm wishes, we invite you to join us in supporting the Houston Food Bank, which supports thousands of Houston-area families. You can donate HERE.



Just Enjoy Each Other

Our therapist gave us an assignment recently to spend some time alone together. Easy enough. We like each other. We enjoy each other’s company. We’ll get the kids down early and enjoy one of our favorite shows. We spend time together all the time. Easiest assignment ever!

Then she added, “Make sure it’s uninterrupted with no screens, no distractions.” Hmmm… she wants to make sure we’re staying in “work on the marriage mode” between sessions. We’re right in the middle of binge-watching one of our favorite shows, but we can use a couple of nights and talk. Besides, we teach other couples to do the same! (BTW, Are YOU getting your 100 minutes in this week?) We mentally prepared ourselves for the time we would set aside to talk about our marriage.

But she continued, “Don’t focus on talking about the kids, the businesses, or even your marriage. Just enjoy each other.”

Just enjoy each other.

Just enjoy each other.

We had to say it to each other a few times to let it sink in. To be intentional about carving out time to just enjoy each other. Sure, we spend time together, but rarely is it alone, undistracted, and with an intentional focus of not “working on our marriage”, but just staring at each other and being lost in love. 

You’d think that since life has “slowed down” so much this year (ALLEGEDLY), we’d have no problem finding the time to just intentionally sit and do nothing but enjoy each other. But the truth is, between the kids, the businesses, the job, the many projects and obligations, we are ALWAYS DOING SOMETHING.

So this assignment to not do our usual “therapy homework”, but rather do nothing but enjoy each other was a needed reminder. And you know us, we wanted to share the reminder with you, just in case you need it. Be intentional. Carve out time to stare into each other’s eyes and really see each other. Connect. Stay connected.

Just enjoy each other.

I know the plans I have for you…

If you’ve been following us for a while, you know that we remain mindful of the ways that our relationship with our children remind us of God’s relationship with us. Here’s yet another example…

We planned a surprise staycation recently, incorporating many things that we knew the kids would love! A few days before we were scheduled to leave home, we simply told the kids that we’d made surprise plans for them for the upcoming weekend. They were so excited! Although they had no idea what the surprise plans were, they began celebrating right there on the spot. By the time Friday afternoon came around, they had completed all of their chores and enrichment assignments that we typically have them do over the weekend. They were ready! They didn’t know what they were ready for, but they sure didn’t want to miss out. 

In the midst of all of their excitement, Terence turned to me and said, “Bay, their excitement reminds me of Jeremiah 29:11.” It was a moment that made us both pause and reflect. 

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

We thought about the trust that these kids have in us… how excited they were about whatever we were going to do for them, because they were certain it was going to be GOOD! We thought about how they prepared themselves to receive their blessings, with full faith that it was going to be something that would bring joy to their little hearts.

I have to admit, I don’t always trust God’s plans that way. Sometimes, I do. But other times, I doubt and I stress out. Sometimes, I even try to present my own plans to God, because, you know, He might need some help figuring out how to give me hope and a future! 

Our experience with the kids reminded me that I should have that kind of faith! After all, if these kids can trust their imperfect, flawed parents, what excuse could I possibly have to not trust my perfect Heavenly Father! Can you relate?

I know, Friend. I’m working on it, too. And this reminder helped. I know I needed it. I hope it blesses you, as well.

XO